Self-esteem is a belief in oneself. How you think and feel about yourself affects your work, relationships with others and general happiness.
As we grow from childhood we develop and form opinions about ourselves through the words and actions of other people. Having a loving and caring environment in our youth, parents and caregivers can positively shape our self image. When we have a positive self-image we feel as good about ourselves during difficult times as we do during pleasant ones. Thoughts of the future and changing situations don’t easily intimidate a person with high self-esteem. They don’t allow those opinions of others determine their personal well being.
To often a person with low self-esteem look in a mirror and don’t like what they see. They not only find fault with their height, weight, complexion and physical being but they also criticize their personality as well. Perceived inabilities and inadequacies also come under fire.
If one has low self-esteem they believe they are being looked at as a incompetent and unsuccessful. They dwell on their mistakes, doubt their abilities and feel afraid to stand up for themselves. This self-defeating view can interfere with the potential to well and have healthy relationships. The effects can be life long. They are more prone to drug abuse and pill addiction to help them cope with life.
SOME SIGNS OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM 1. Avoids change and new situations. 2. Puts down own abilities. 3. Blames others for own mistakes. 4. Easily influenced by others. 5. Easily frustrated. 6. Defensive and hurt by criticism. 7. Always wants to change appearance.
SOME SIGNS OF HIGH SELF-ESTEEM 1. Approaches new situations and challenges with eager. 2. Are proud of their achievements. 3. Learns from their mistakes. 4. Are confident of their appearance.
HOW CAN WE INCREASE OUR SELF-ESTEEM 1. Accept who you are and stop rejecting your looks and feelings. Appreciate that unique human being you are strengths, weaknesses and all. 2. Forgive yourself. If you start getting down on yourself – STOP and question if this is really that horrible in the great scheme of your life. Forgive and forget and move on. 3. Give yourself credit. Every day take a moment to congratulate yourself on all of your accomplishments. 4. Take risks. Have you been avoiding putting your goals and dreams into action out of fear? Take the chance…failure comes from not trying. 5. Form loving relationships. Know that you deserve a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment. Remove yourself from negative relationships. Don’t let your partner define you. 6. ALWAYS talk positive to yourself. Tell yourself what you “want” never what you “don’t” want. As a child we are programmed by our caretakers and others….as an adult we are programmed by our “own” thoughts.Boosting your self-esteem improves your relationship with yourself and ultimately others. Give yourself POSITIVE suggestions and reinforcements daily, even if you hear that little negative voice in the back of your head. Bury that voice and BELIEVE…you can do it!!